Reality Check 101

Reality check 101. We are imperfect mortals living in a world that is also far from perfect. But we do the best we can. Let me share my experience to prove this point, as this is really the only subject that I am truly qualified to quote.

I eat meat, dairy and gluten. I smoke cigarettes, bare in mind, it wasn’t that long ago that this was socially acceptable, now I am outcast and frowned upon for it. I know I need to get off ‘tobacco road’, I know all the theories, I know the harm it does…..and when the time is right, I will. I’ve done harder things. I drink alcohol and strong, black coffee with one sugar. I’m nearly 50, and ‘touch wood’, am surviving pretty well. 

However, as is very obvious, I’m certainly not a ‘health fanatic’. I grow a garden, that I adore, I cook fresh food every night for my family and I eat loads of fruit and vegetables. I became the mother of 3 children in my 30’s, I drank coffee and fed myself whatever I craved during my pregnancies. I gave up alcohol.

To cut a long story short, all 3 of my babies were overdue and induced, all weighed close to 10 pounds (4.5kgs) and were born with perfect scores. My children have no learning difficulties, no disabilities, they are all above average height, bright, vital and very intense in their own ways.

Now, as I approach 50, I want to lose weight (don’t we all?) and be more active, as I balance my work and play. But I’ll take it step by step, I’ll never be a size 10, if I can get back into my size 14 jeans, I’ll be more than happy. I’ve started exercising regularly again.

The point I am trying to make is that life is hard, damn hard, there are so many rights, so many wrongs, we are all struggling with something. What will be, will be, when your number’s up, your number’s up. Enjoy the journey, smell the roses once in a while.

So, don’t be too hard on yourself, don’t stress yourself out about anything and everything. Enjoy the sun and the moon and the wind and the rain and the birds and the trees and the flowers……love you for you…..love your family, love your friends......and do the best you can :) xxx

Married, middle aged, mother's secret business

Not sure what has come over me, but here I am, blogging almost 12 months since my last post. I've had this one in draft for a long time, having started it at on 22nd October, 2016! I was checking my email and then, for no apparent reason, opened up Blogger. I'm still getting hits, would you believe, but what has really struck me, was this draft. How far I have come since October last year.........

22nd October, 2016- It's been a while. Not sure exactly where I am going with this one, but I haven't written for about 6 months and thought that this would do the trick right now. To be honest, the main reason that I have slowed right down on my blogging (apart from my usual statements on life and living in Face book), is that I felt 'over exposed' and sick and tired of being so 'open' with anyone and everyone who cared to read it. But I'll give it a go, here and now and we'll see where we end up.

Not long ago, I sat on the edge of our bed, on his side, where I usually sit and I let it all out, I vented and he listened. He held my hand and let me go for it. Feeling the need to express myself (for something different), I explained a few key points about what being a married, middle aged mother entailed. Frustrations, goals, aspirations, disappointments, desires and needs all swirled around in my head and I had to put it into order, for his sake and mine.

You see, many of you will get this, many won't. Having made the conscious decision several years ago to dedicate myself to my family and fore go other things for me, almost feels like a trap. I try my hardest to do the best I can, to be the best I can be, but no matter how hard I try, sometimes it seems as though I'm still failing. There is no such thing as perfection in motherhood and this in itself annoys me. I want to achieve, I want to excel, I want to be 'perfect',,,,but this doesn't exist and I don't like that.

Little disposable income doesn't help either. Being so busy making ends meet is a constant source of irritation and aggravation for me also. I must have a thousand places I'd like to go, a thousand more experiences I'd like to give my kids, a thousand more things I'd like to do......but......no cash.....no can do.

I have commitments to my children that reign paramount. I too could be more self centred, independent and care free, throw my hands up in the air and tell them just to work it out because I'm busy satisfying my needs for a change. But no, that's not me, not at all.

So, I go back to square one, stop for a minute and consider all of these things and eventually, I put it into perspective again. I have a whinge, I look inward for a moment and then all of a sudden the tension goes.........

Wow! What an eye opener for me. I was such a bundle of aggravation and irritation. Now, 6 months later, I am a new woman. My outlook, my thoughts, my routine, are now so very different. The main reason for this is that I've re-entered the workforce, I now have a job and have found an amazing sense of self, of freedom, of achievement, of productivity. For years, I lived in fear that I'd never be able to work again, it would be too disruptive, too much of a change, too hard.....and how very wrong I was.

"Having made the conscious decision several years ago to dedicate myself to my family and fore go other things for me, almost feels like a trap". I am still very dedicated to the family, nothing has changed there, but I am no longer 'trapped'. I now have balance, I can do it all. I work full time and this isn't just about earning money, I am productive, I am independent, I am free.

"Sometimes it seems as though I'm still failing.......I want to achieve, I want to excel". Now I feel far from a failure, I am certainly achieving, I am also excelling in balancing my commitments.....my commitments as a wife and mother, BUT also to myself.

"Little disposable income doesn't help either. Being so busy making ends meet is a constant source of irritation and aggravation for me also". Not any more! For the first time since becoming parents, my husband and I are now able to live comfortably, we are able to do extra again. We are now more financially secure than ever, the pressure has lifted, we are calm and relaxed......and happy.

After saying all that, I work to live, I don't live to work. If I can leave you with one message from this post, it is this. As women, we are forced to make choices, the big one being children OR career. Please understand that whilst I chose children (the best choice I ever made), time has passed and now, I am able to redefine myself and my situation in such a wonderful way.....and you can too :) xxx

Virtual Assistant 397 at your service!

A big hello to my lovely readers! Today, I have a post that is a bit of a promo for me, as I tell you all about my home based business, Virtual Assistant 397. You may have noticed in my Google+ profile that I also enjoy working part time, remotely, offering administration and business support to small and medium sized businesses, as a virtual assistant. No, you hadn't noticed? Well let me explain.

Just over 3 years ago, I set up this business to enable me to keep my skills up to date and allow me to earn an income around my family commitments. At that stage, 2 of my children were at school but I still had one at home with me. I didn't have the freedom and flexibility to leave each day to go to a workplace without serious disruption to my family's routine and I didn't want to pay huge child care fees. So Virtual Assistant 397 was born.

My tag line is..........

Professional, reliable, accurate, cost effective business support to save you time & money

......and that's exactly what I do. With over 20 years professional experience in both the public and private sectors, I have extensive experience in business administration and support. I am Tertiary qualified and pride myself on being thorough, accurate, dedicated and having a high attention to detail.

Examples of services I offer to assist business include:

Media Monitoring
Internet Research
Data entry
Assisting with the development and promotion of events held on-site or on line
RSVP management
Sponsorship management
Travel bookings 
Data entry
Manage your enquiries in box
Take appointments and organise your diary
Type and format letters, proposals, agendas, minutes of meetings, reports
Creating templates, eg: faxes, letterhead, presentations
Manage your social media 
Editing and reformatting documents
Mail merges, eg: labels, form letters, invitations and name tags
Producing newsletters, flyers & brochures
Invoicing 
Collating reports and produce Board Report
Desktop Publishing
Customer Surveys
Mailing Lists
Resumes
Job Applications
Manuals
Proofreading
Financial reporting and BAS
Web site design & maintenance
Recruitment

The major benefits of outsourcing tasks like this to me is that, firstly, the work is done promptly, accurately and to a high standard. Secondly, it is very cost effective for business owners as they don't have the expense of employing staff at their workplace, on a permanent basis, with all the costs associated with this.

For lots more information, please visit my website http://www.virtualassistant397.com/ 

Recently, I have decided to build up this business once again for basically the same reasons that I started it. So, please look no further for superior business administration support and contact me today! Please also feel free to share this post amongst your networks :) xxx

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Living and loving a lot in fantastic 2015!

I have not made the time to write for a while now and this is not good! So let me fix that. Today, the idea struck me to take a look back over 2015, now that the New Year is here. As I am a bit camera happy, I have a great collection of photos from all through the year that have made it really easy to see just what I have been up to with my family and friends. And what a sensational year it was! Join me now as we walk back through 2015, month by month, as I create another entry in my 'living journal', my beloved blog, recording the living and loving that I adore.

January was hot, like it is every year. It is Summer, my favourite time of year for many reasons. My garden grows the best, I can enjoy the outdoor life that I love, everything comes alive and is vibrant. My children are all ready to hit the beach, posing in my garden that is flourishing in the warmth. My kids spend a lot of time with me outside in this glorious climate and love the beach and the pool in Summer.

Last January was my first experience of a Summer veggie garden. I had many, many tomatoes and here you can see some of them. I am outside, working in the garden a lot in Summer and here is the perfect example of why. I love the way my plants grow and thrive, I love to feel the warmth of the sun, it makes me feel alive and gives me energy.

February was an exciting month. I had my fourth Art Exhibition at a local cafe. I enjoyed looking back over my work that I have collected over many years and displaying it for the world to see.

The only problem was that I exhibited work from my own private collection and this was a mistake. Of course each piece was for sale and this was a bit painful. Looking back, I should have taken the time to paint all new pieces for display and sale, that I could easily part with. I will do that next time. Anyway, it was lots of fun, gave me a big thrill and I received lots of positive feedback on my work and encouragement to keep painting. This felt good.

On Opening Night, I invited my family and friends to join me for a little celebration. We packed the place that night, it was a full house. Later on, some good friends joined me for a meal, it was a great night and a wonderful experience.

In March, my husband and I travelled to Phuket in Thailand for the second time. We love it there, we love almost everything about the place. We always have an amazing holiday when we travel to Thailand and have created some wonderful memories.

It was my husband's birthday the day after we arrived, so we went out to celebrate at one of our favourite venues in Phuket. A fantastic night, in fact, the whole 10 days we were there was brilliant. We can't wait to go back again. Next time, we are planning on taking our kids with us for a real family holiday. They will love it too, we are sure.

Not long after we got back from Thailand in April, it was Easter and we drove interstate to Adelaide to stay with a close friend and her kids. We had beautiful weather and again, lots of fun.

This friend of mine is very dear to me and we really know how to enjoy ourselves when we are together. It was sad when she moved far away but we are still in touch and very good friends.

It is now May and Autumn is most certainly here. I enjoy watching the leaves on the trees change colours and fall. It is starting to get cold as Winter approaches.

In May, it is also Mother's Day in Australia. I always celebrate the day with my mum. We usually get together, have lunch and a laugh.

In June, we start our kids' birthday celebrations. For Adam's birthday, he had a ride in his all time favourite car, a Lamborghini. This gave him a big thrill and he couldn't stop smiling all day.

I made Adam's birthday cake, just the way he wanted it and he was a very happy boy.

July saw our daughter turn 5. She is growing up fast and will start school this year. Julia makes us proud with her bright and bubbly personality.

She had a birthday party with her good friends. They are all as cute as each other and have a lot of fun together.

We also had a party of our own for fun in July. It was a fondue night and the theme was 1970's. Any excuse for me to dress up is a good one and I had a great time with my friends.

I decorated the place and put on a good meal. There was plenty of everything and Winter is the perfect time to enjoy fondue.

A great night was had by all and I love getting people together to let their hair down a bit.

In August, we celebrate our second son's birthday. Here I am with my adorable Marc, the cheeky one. Last year, we celebrated at home with a family dinner.

That night, we celebrated in fine style with an Italian banquet of fresh, home made fettuccine with a trio of sauces, veal schnitzels, garlic bread and a green salad. I also made Marc a Tiramisu cake and he loved it all.

In September, it is my birthday. I had a wonderful time with my husband who spoiled me rotten with champagne and dinner at one of our favourite restaurants. You can see how happy I am on this day.

The following weekend, the family and I stayed at a place called Anglesea which is a coastal town along The Great Ocean Road. It was nice to get away with the kids and enjoy the beach.

It was very cold, but that didn't matter. I love the beach all year round and we spent hours walking along it. This was a really good family weekend getaway and we all had fun.

In October, my brother came to visit us. He also lives interstate. We don't get to see each other very often but make sure that we keep in touch throughout the year. We always enjoy each other's company and he really likes to spend time with my kids.

The following weekend, we flew to Tasmania to visit my brother-in-law. He has just moved there so we wanted to go and see the place that we had heard so much about. He works at sea so is only at home for a few months at a time.

He showed us around Hobart while were there and it was so good to see him again.

It is November now and things are starting to warm up. I am back out in my garden, dancing like no one is watching.

I am loving the fact that I can get back into short sleeved tops and thongs again. My garden is starting to get that Summer feel about it and I couldn't be happier.

December was a very busy month with my eldest son graduating from Primary School. Here he is looking very smooth, standing next to a friend's Mustang. He was so thrilled to make his grand appearance at his Graduation in this car.

And then it was Christmas again! I went to town, with a fresh Christmas tree, lights and all the trimmings. I love Christmas time with my family.

I cooked a traditional Christmas lunch and it was a beautiful day.

Well, if we hadn't already done enough this year, we certainly finished it off with a bang and went camping at Bendigo. We have a great set up and thoroughly enjoy the great out doors.

I love to cook outside in the open air and here is my effort for breakfast each morning, bacon and eggs.

It was hot while we were there and we all had a ball.

Wow! See what I mean? What a fantastic year! We had plenty of travelling and family celebrations, great experiences and good times. We saw family and friends that we don't get to see very often......and most importantly, we had a lot of loving. So when I decided to start this blog just over 3 years a go and had to give it a name, I couldn't have picked a better title than 'Live a Little, Love a Lot'.......because that is exactly what I do! Happy New Year, my dear readers, I look forward to sharing many more good times and laughs with you this year :) xxx